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Tuesday, March 10, 2009

good news keep on comin'

The Delfosse family received a referral today for a 17 month old baby girl!!! That's the only referral today that I know of. Hoping for more, but still celebrating the Delfosse's good news!!!


So, here's the updated list (for "either" and "girl only")

1.  Bayly – EITHER – dte 5/2/08
2.  Precopia - EITHER - 5/2/08
3. (1)  Taylor – girl only – 5/2/08
4. (2) Pickard - girl only - 5/9/08
5. (3) Bartley - girl only - 5/30/08
6.  Bushre - EITHER - 5/30/08
7. (4)  - But really # 1 in line for a toddler girl!!! - Portilla - girl only - 6/13/08
8. (5) FOOTE - GIRL ONLY - 6/13/08 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
9.(6) Redd - girl only - 6/13/08
10.(7) Kerby - girl only- 6/13/08

And here's the overall list of the top 10 or so waiting: 

Top 10 (that we know of) waiting for referral:

1. Bayly (DTE 5/2/08) – either infant (0 – 12 mos)

2. Precopia (DTE 5/2/08) – either infant (0 – 12 mos)

3. Taylor (DTE 5/2/08) – infant girl (0 – 9 mos)

4. Pickard (DTE 5/9/09) – infant girl (0 – 12 mos)

5. Bartley (DTE 5/30/09) – infant girl (0 – 12 mos)

6. Bushre (DTE 5/30/09) – either infant (0 – 6 mos)

7. Low (DTE 5/30/09) – boy (3 – 36 mos)

8. Portilla (DTE 6/13/08) - girl (0- 3 years)

9. Foote (DTE 6/13/08) - girl (0-12 months)

10. Jackson (DTE 6/13/08) - boy (0-10 months)

11. Redd (DTE (6/13/08) - girl (0-12 months)

12. Kerby (DTE (6/13/08) - girl (0-12 months)

13. Tapper (DTE (6/13/08) - sibling group (0-6 years)


Friday, March 6, 2009

Big Sister's Thinking of You

Lulu,


Today, out of no where and not prompted at all, Libby said, "Momma, Lulu is crying and we need to get her." Then she said, "Lulu is crying and she needs her milk." A little while later while we were cooking she said, "Mom, Lulu is crying and we need to get her home. She needs her milk. Will Jesus give it to her?" And before I could answer she started praying out loud, "Jesus, give Lulu her milk and get her home. Thank you Jesus."

I wonder what is happening in your world today?

Love you!
Love, 
Mommy and Libby

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

To Lulu

Dear Lulu,


When I waited on your big sister, Libby, I had plenty of time on my hands to read, prepare, shop, imagine, journal. I was terrified about becoming a mom so any preparation I could do - I did! Our journey to you is much different. I don't have that fear. Jesus gave us Libby (her formal name being Liberty) to give me liberty/freedom over that fear. When I named her I thought her name was for her - a reminder that she has been set free from abandonment, orphan life, communism, loneliness, etc. But Jesus knew, when He gave us that name for her what it really meant. That she was part of His plan to set us free. 

So during our journey to you we have not had the fear or the absolute need to prepare or worry. However!!! - I didn't realize until today that I have been walking around with heavy numbness in an effort to not set my heart up for disappointment should it take longer to get to you than originally planned. 

On Saturday I'm not sure exactly what happened, but I woke up with joy. The heaviness was not there. I had spent the week asking the Lord to show me how He wanted me to use my time and I had fasted from meeting with friends so I could make room to just hear Him. On Saturday it was as if all that quiet time culminated into a peaceful day of just being settled in Him. At one point that day it was as if Libby could feel the weight come off as well. She kept shouting, "It's a beautiful day! It's a beautiful day!" Right then I started thinking about you and wondering if you were born yet or not. I brought Libby into the kitchen and we did something special to remember that beautiful day. We wrote a letter to you together that is stored away for you to read one day.  

Sunday was a full day. We met Holly and Darren Sapp (who are adopting an older girl from ET) and the Martines for lunch down on the Riverwalk. It was so fun listening to Holly talk about her adoption journey and I had a chance to talk about ours. Later that evening we had house church and your daddy introduced a new song he's been working on called "We Will Trust". The song speaks about how "our God can be counted on" and I continued to think of you and how God is making it possible for you to come home to us soon.

On Monday I woke up with amazing energy and expectation and joy as I set out on my new God-inspired schedule. I spent some time with the Lord, prayed for some friends and family and you. I washed dishes, 2 loads of laundry, mopped the floors, got Libby ready, got myself ready and was off to the gym before 9 am!! That is NOT a normal morning for me. The entire day was amazing and I thought about you some more!

And then today, I went to work out and at the end of the amazing work out we were in "cool down" mode and the instructor was playing slow music that just stirred something up in me. It was a combination of being tired of waiting, being eager to see your face, being overwhelmed at the thought that I might see your face very soon, and being set free to allow myself to feel and sink my heart into this fully. As I put up all my weights (ooo, just realized how that paints the picture perfectly) I kept trying to hold back the tears. Everyone was leaving the room, but Cristie was waiting on me. When I looked her in the eye I knew I would not be able to stop crying. I told her, "I just need to cry" and we went to a bench where I covered my face with a towel and sobbed. It was such a good release. It's like I've been holding it all in and I just needed to let it go. Relax, trust, hope, feel.

I share all of this with you to say - I don't have as many gadgets, toys, clothes or personal journal entries for you as I did for Libby at this point (in part, because I'm so busy with her and our ministries, but in part also because I do not have to fill my time with those things in order to smother my fears this time around)- but as of today my heart is more fully engaged and joyful with anticipation than it has ever been because I get to enjoy our journey to you from this point forward with no fear and no more numbness. I have permission from my Father to enjoy, wonder, and fully feel the emotion of this journey. I know there may be disappointment, but today I realized I would rather feel the joy and risk the disappointment than be without any joy at all. If it takes feeling disappointment to get to you, then I will pay that price. You are worth all the emotion if that's what it takes. And I want to fully celebrate the work God is doing to bring you to us.

Today, to mark all that is happening in my spirit for you I bought a Sit and Stand Stroller at Babies R Us along with a bib, baby monitor, and a few other things. When we arrived home, your daddy and Libby helped me put it together. Libby loves it! And she talked about you being in it with her. I have visions of that. And vision of holding you in the baby Bjorn while holding Libby's hand for a cool afternoon walk (we'll have to be somewhere other than San Antonio for the "cool afternoon" part, but that's okay!). 

I love you Lulu. I know it is crazy difficult for others to comprehend loving someone I have never seen. But God puts it there - the love. Because it's His love and He has a plan for you - to prosper you, to give you hope and a future. Aria-Lu Hope - your name means "lioness of God" "pearl" and "hope". That's what you are. A pearl of God with the heart of a lion that will work to take His hope to the hopeless. When I waited on Libby he gave me two words of promise to me about who she would be. He told me that she would be a joy and delight. She is that exactly! For you He has spoken that you will a child of hope and peace. Jesus is filling our home with His attributes through my children who He has gathered from the nations. Such a beautiful thought!

Sleep in peace, dream with hope. We are coming soon!
Love,
Mommy


March Referrals Have Begun!

I woke up so emotional this morning. After a great workout and looked at my friend, Cristie, and said, "I just need to cry!" So I did. I cried really hard - for no apparent reason. The wait can be so emotional. It's just hard carrying around so much anticipation and knowing so little about when you will see your baby's face.


Today referrals began for the month of March. The Mullins family received a referral for a 1 month baby girl. The Bullingtons received a referral for a baby boy (I believe they were on the boy only list). And the Garner family received a referral. I still have to talk with Heidi Garner to find out the details of their referral but I know they received a referral for a girl - just not sure of the age.

So, here's the updated list (for "either" and "girl only")

1.  Bayly – EITHER – dte 5/2/08
2.  Precopia - EITHER - 5/2/08
3. (1)  Taylor – girl only – 5/2/08
4. (2)  Delfosse - girl only - 5/9/08
5. (3) Pickard - girl only - 5/9/08
6. (4) Bartley - girl only - 5/30/08
7.  Bushre - EITHER - 5/30/08
8. (5)  - But really # 1 in line for a toddler girl!!! - Portilla - girl only - 6/13/08
9. (6) FOOTE - GIRL ONLY - 6/13/08 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
10.(7) Redd - girl only - 6/13/08
11.(8)) Kerby - girl only- 6/13/08

And here's the overall list of the top 10 or so waiting: (WE MADE THE LIST THIS TIME!)

Top 10 (that we know of) waiting for referral:

1. Bayly (DTE 5/2/08) – either infant (0 – 12 mos)

2. Precopia (DTE 5/2/08) – either infant (0 – 12 mos)

3. Taylor (DTE 5/2/08) – infant girl (0 – 9 mos)

4. Pickard (DTE 5/9/09) – infant girl (0 – 12 mos)

5. Delfosse (DTE 5/9/09) – infant girl(s) (0 – 18 mos)

6. Bartley (DTE 5/30/09) – infant girl (0 – 12 mos)

7. Bushre (DTE 5/30/09) – either infant (0 – 6 mos)

8. Low (DTE 5/30/09) – boy (3 – 36 mos)

9. Portilla (DTE 6/13/08) - girl (0- 3 years)

10. Foote (DTE 6/13/08) - girl (0-12 months)

11. Jackson (DTE 6/13/08) - boy (0-10 months)

12. Redd (DTE (6/13/08) - girl (0-12 months)

13. Kerby (DTE (6/13/08) - girl (0-12 months)

14. Tapper (DTE (6/13/08) - sibling group (0-6 years)


Monday, March 2, 2009

God is SO GOOD!!

March has begun with a bang! There were no referrals today (sad sigh) BUT (now smile!) many AW families who had court dates in late April received an email saying that MOWA (in ET) has agreed to fill out more applications for more cases each day (or something like that, its complicated)  so some dates opened up in March. AW requested earlier court dates for these families and they got it - for late March - almost an entire month earlier!! HELLO!!  


If MOWA is indeed going to follow through with this from now on then we have a MUCH better chance of getting a court date before court closures! This is AWESOME NEWS!!!

Thank you Jesus!!
cindy

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

Another Referral, Hague Training COMPLETE and a Conference Call in 10 Minutes!

Last night I completed the Hague Training (for me and for Billy)! At the end of the training it said the certificate would arrive in the mail in 3-4 weeks, so I'm glad we got it done because 4 weeks from now is the end of March and we could get a referral any time from late March through April (or later, but I'd rather not think about that!).


Today the Rogers family received a referral for a girl! This is the coolest family and I'm so stoked for them! They were requesting "either" so we move up in the combined line, but not in the "girl only" line. We have a conference call today (in less than 7 minutes) and I submitted a question in regard to so many girl referrals going out and if that means that more people requesting "either" will be getting girl referrals (instead of the assumed boy referral in previous months). Looking forward to hearing that answer because that could significantly change how far out our referral is.
 - - -----------------
Post - Conference Call:

Call went well. Was very informative. But really, they can't answer the questions I most deeply want to know - like - WHEN AM I GETTING A REFERRAL?? ha ha! Terra did say that once a family is in the top 5-10 or so they will starting contacting those families to let them know they are getting close. That's a new and refreshing change!

Oh - Jaime Delfosse - I saw on YG you were saying that you are number 8, but on this list your number 6 for "either" and number 3 for "girl only". Either that is good news for you OR I am missing someone on my list (bad news for me!). So let me know which it is!

Lastly, I really have to program my mind to think of us as number 11 and not 7 because anyone in line ahead of us could receive a girl since there is a shift in the number of boys vs. girls being referred. And, of course, there could always be another mystery family.

Oh my, so many unknowns. If only I had an "off" button for the mommy in me until the referral call. But nope - I'm on. Full on.

So here's the updated list:
1.     Mullins – EITHER – dte 4/25/08
2.     Bayly – EITHER – dte 5/2/08
3.     Precopia - EITHER - 5/2/08
4. (1)  Taylor – girl only – 5/2/08
5. (2) Garner - girl only - 5/2/08
6. (3) Delfosse - girl only - 5/9/08
7. (4) Pickard - girl only - 5/9/08
8. (5) Bartley - girl only - 5/30/08
9. Bushre - EITHER - 5/30/08
10.(6) Portilla - girl only - 6/13/08
11.(7) FOOTE - GIRL ONLY - 6/13/08 !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
12.(8) Redd - girl only - 6/13/08
13.(9) Kerby - girl only- 6/13/08

Cindy

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Preparing Libby for Ethiopia AND Sisterhood!

I have been thinking a lot about our trip to Ethiopia - even though I have NO IDEA when it will be. I've purchased several great travel toys/books for Libby so I can entertain her on the long flight. We fly all the time, but we've never taken Libby on a flight quite as long as this one will be. So I thought it best to have some new toys and books that she won't see or even know about until the day we travel. 

A while back I created a Life Book for Libby that tells her entire adoption story. She loves it and the book started a whole new love in my heart. A love for writing "books" just for Libby that address whatever issues or lessons on which we need to concentrate. I've written one about princesses  - about being a REAL princess of the King. I am still working on that one. And I have some other ideas for the near future. But the following "book" became priority so Libby can be as prepared as possible for the big trip to Ethiopia and for becoming a sister. 

The actual "book" is full of pictures that go along with the story. But it would take too long to post all that here. I couldn't figure out how to share the file on this blog so I just cut and paste the story. 

I went to UPS today and had the pages laminated and bound with a simple plastic spiral. It's kid-friendly enough for Libby to hold it and play with it. I dropped off the pages and came back to pick it up a few hours later. The employees at UPS were so sweet when we came back to pick it up. They were in love with the story and the whole idea behind it. That was really encouraging.

It has been fun making personal stories just for Libby, but for anyone traveling to Ethiopia - or on any adoption adventure - with little ones I thought this idea might work for you too. Just wanted to share. Enjoy!

I’m Flying to 

Ethiopia!

(and becoming a Big Sister too)

By: Cindy Foote




-1-

I am 3 years old. Mommy and Daddy think I’m becoming a big girl. They even think I am big enough to become a Big Sister! I was adopted from China. My baby sister is coming from EthiopiaEven though we are from very different countries, our adoption stories are almost the sameJust like mommy and daddy flew on a plane for a very long time to get me in Chinawe will fly on a plane for a very long time to get Lulu. We are flying to Ethiopia!

 

                                                                                    -2-

Mommy and Daddy say we must first wait for our adoption agency to send us a picture of Lulu so we know who she is and what she looks like. That will make it easier for us to find her when we fly to EthiopiaOnce we have her picture we will have to wait for many weeks before we can fly to EthiopiaDuring that time we will PRAY to Jesus for Lulu to stay healthy and safe. We will also start shopping for Lulu’s clothes and packing for our big trip! What color do you think will look good on Lulu? What do we need to pack for her?

 

-3-

 When it is time to go we will have a lot of luggage – even more luggage than mommy and daddy took to China because this time I am coming with them! The plane ride is going to be the longest plane ride I have ever taken.

 

Mommy is already gathering special toys and surprises so I have plenty to play with on the plane. We are even taking some special movies and snacks! This is going to be FUN!

 

-4-

Mommy and Daddy say that Ethiopia will be very different from any other place I’ve visited. The people will look different from me and will look different from mommy and daddy too. Many of them will have darker skin and curly black hair – like this:

 

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 Most of the people will talk in a different language called Amharic. I will not be able to understand what they are saying. It will sound like jibberish to me! The people of Ethiopia will not understand me either because I speak English. This is why it is very important to stay with mommy and daddy the whole time. They will always know who to talk to and how to take the best care of me.

 

Many people in Ethiopia are poor. Many of them do not have homes like mine. They live on the street. Mommy says that many of the people in Ethiopia do not have money or food. They might even ask us for help by tapping us on the shoulder or holding out their hands. This is the only way they know how to live because they are so poor they need help. Mommy and daddy say that we will PRAY for them because they have so many needs.

 Many of the people do not have clean clothes like me and most of them do not even have clean water. Mommy and daddy say that it is very important to only drink bottled water. I can’t even brush my teeth with the water from the sink. We always have to use bottled water.

-6-

 Mommy says I will smell some wonderful smells, like coffee or perfume. But she also says that I will smell stinky things too - like Lulu's dirty diapers!

 Daddy says I may not always like the food in Ethiopia, but they are going to bring some special snacks on the trip just for me. But it is FUN to try new foods, so I will try to be brave even if the food looks icky to me. You never know. It might taste delectable! Here is a picture of Injera and other Ethiopian foods!


-7-

 I am going to meet lots of children at the orphanages. I am from an orphanage too, so there is nothing to be scared of as long as I stay with mommy and daddy.

 Mommy and daddy say that I will be sleepy during the daytime and I will want to play and have fun at night because when the sun is up in Ethiopia the sun is down in San Antonio. It is okay if I get tired and sleep a lot. Mommy and daddy will understand. They say that if I use my words and tell them when I’m tired they will do everything they can to help me rest. And if I’m awake they will play with me. But I have to be patient with mommy and daddy because they will be very tired too. 

 

-8-

 After we fly to Ethiopia we will meet our Ethiopian guides who will help us talk to the people in Ethiopia and will also help us find Lulu. A couple of days after landing in Ethiopia we will finally meet my baby sister. This is just what happened when mommy and daddy came to China to get me – see, here’s a picture of mommy and daddy getting me:


I used to be a baby. I drank milk from a bottle many times every day. I could not walk or even crawl. I wore a diaper and even pooped in my diaper! Sometimes I cried a lot because that is the only way a baby knows how to talk.

Mommy and daddy tell me that Lulu will do these things too. Mommy and daddy will have to hold Lulu a lot. Sometimes I might get jealous and want to be held too. I will have to be a BIG GIRL and wait my turn. Having a sister means I have to share my mommy and daddy. Sometimes this will be very hard. But mommy and daddy say I will soon love Lulu so much that I won’t mind sharing my mommy and daddy with her.

 

-9-

 We will do some shopping in Ethiopia. We will see many new things. But mostly, we will be getting to know LuluLulu might be a little scared of us because we look different than her. I am going to love on her and let her know that she is safe with us. 

I’m going to be the BEST BIG SISTER in the WHOLE WIDE WORLD!

 

-10-

We will be in Ethiopia for one whole week and just when we are getting used to it all, we will have to get on a plane again for another very long plane ride home.  At this point we will be VERY, VERY, VERY tired!

 

We call this “dog tired!”

We will all have to be KIND to each other and PATIENT so we can have a FUN plane ride home!

This plane ride will be different from the plane ride to Ethiopia. It will be different because it will be our first plane ride with my new baby sister. Mommy and daddy will have more to carry. We will have to take turns being held by mommy and daddy. Lulu will need her bottles of milk and her diaper changed often. And mommy and daddy will be very busy taking care of Lulu and me.

We will play again with our special travel toys and watch our special movies again too. And then – FINALLY – we will be home in San Antonio with my new baby sister!

 

-11-

For several days after coming home we will all be tiredLulu might not sleep very well at night because the sun will be down in San Antonio when it’s up in Ethiopia.  She will think it is daytime when the sun goes down. But soon, she will learn to sleep at night.

A lot of people will want to come see my baby sister Lulu. She will be new and little and everyone loves to look at babies. Sometimes I might want people to look at me and pay attention to me. That is okay. I just need to tell mommy and daddy how I am feeling. They will understand.

Lulu might get some presents. I can help her open them.

The great thing about being a BIG sister is that I can teach her how to use her new toys. I also get to teach Lulu English. It will take her a long time to talk, but I will be a big part of her learning how to say words like,  “Momma”, “Dada” and “Libby”!

 

-12-

 Lulu and I will grow up to be the best SISTERS and the closest FRIENDS. We will be different in a lot of ways, but we will be the same in a lot of ways too. I can’t wait to meet Lulu and get to know her. She will need a lot of hugs and kisses and I’m just the right sister to give her those things! Although we will have some hard days, most of the time it will be fun having a sister to play with.

One thing I know for sure. Mommy and daddy love me.

Even though I will have to share them with Lulu I know they will love me just as much as they did before Lulu joined our family.

I can’t wait to fly to Ethiopia and become a big sister!! I love you, Lulu!